Tips on managing yourself in difficult situations

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When you read the title, you might have had someone in mind, but I can almost guarantee you that someone else had you in mind. Until you recognise this, you will not be able to get control of yourself enough to manage situations with a difficult person.

Difficult people have been divided into different categories like complainers, negativists, unresponsive, expert know-it-alls, etc. The problem with labels is they make it easy to give up on people and disengage from these people. To deal with people we classify as difficult, you have to separate the person from the behaviour, i.e. label…


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We all know how daunting job search can be whether you are a graduate starting out your career, a seasoned employee looking for a career change, or the pandemic has put you back in the job market. According to the 2019 recruitment benchmark report by Jobvite about 250 people apply for a single position and of those 250 only 5 of them will be called for a face to face interview. Therefore, it can be really frustrating when you get a chance for a face-to-face interview only to be unsuccessful and you know you could have done better.

There are…


You don’t have to agree or disagree, it is how you look at it.

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According to a report published by the Health and Safety Executive (HSE) in 2019, over 12 million days were lost to work-related stress, anxiety or depression in 2018/2019. That is 21 days per case reported in that period.

A Mental Health Foundation survey found that more than 40% of employees are neglecting other aspects of their lives because of work, which may increase their vulnerability to mental health problems. They also found that as a person’s work weekly hours increase so do their feelings of unhappiness.

If anything, the current situation is shining a spotlight on the importance of looking…


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Self-care is a buzzword that seems to have taken over our social media, magazines and the news. Historical uses have ranged from mental health to colonialism to activism to the hippie movement and now to an industry worth more than £8 billion. What exactly does self-care mean and where on earth did it come from? Did people in previous generations practice self care? Well, yes they did howbeit for different reasons.

Records that show self-care was used as far back as ancient Greece. The concept was very much associated with the wealthy, upper and middle class people who view themselves as superior to others who do not have the means or the opportunity for self-care.


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In uncertain and unprecedented times, it is natural to experience stress, anxiety and fluctuation between confidence and fear even if you and your family are healthy and you have 3–6 months of emergency fund. With the toxic combination of health pandemic, stock market crash, job market crash (10 million people have filed for unemployment in the US and 50 million are predicted to lose their jobs by summer time), loneliness, isolation and anxiety of catching the disease, it’s a miracle just getting through the day.

Kauser Family Foundation poll in the US in March found the following key worries related…


We go to the doctor when we are feeling sick in our bodies or when we have persistent pain or when we feel flu-ish, so why do we think that we cannot go to a health professional when we are feeling emotional hurt-loss, loneliness or stress.

For some, socio-economic status has dictated to them that talking about your feelings is a bad thing or that it shows weakness or it’s lovey-dovey and fluffy.

Go and talk to a Shrink? You must be crazy.

Some men have especially grown up with this idea. …


If you are reading this, you probably already believe in being organised. There are people who could have paper scattered all over their desk and insist they know where everything is.

Based on how our brains work and the fact that most people are visual, there is a level of effectiveness that can only be attained by being organised. There are established research papers which show that a cluttered environment leads to decreased productivity.

So what are the benefits of being organised both in your environment/space and in your personal productivity journey?

Being organised reduces anxiety

Have you ever been…


10 Ways to overcome impostor syndrome

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What on earth is that?

Well, I’m glad you asked.

Impostor syndrome (IS) is when you do not feel good enough and fear being exposed as a fraud. It is often an inaccurate assessment of your ability and a trap that when fallen into, might be difficult to get out of. Impostor syndrome is a recognised phenomenon described by psychologists Suzanne Imes and Pauline Clance, professors at Georgia State University in 1978.

Did you know that 70% of successful people have suffered from IS at some point including people like Albert Einstein, Maya Angelou and Meryl Streep? Who knew.

Esthersanni

A Life Coach and pharmacist. I help people who feel stuck in their lives to achieve their goals. I love writing and putting my thoughts on paper.

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